Let people do what they need to do to make them happy,mind your own business, and do what you need to do to make you happy.

Stop trying to see what's going on inside someone else's window, and set your own household in order.

在各位还没把这些可能会引起一些人的不满的分析之前,我想先在这里做个简单的说明。这篇文中将提到的你,他,你们,他们,马来西亚华人,马来西亚人,华人等各种代名词,而这些的人物并不代表全部国人或指明个人。我也和一下文中所有被提到人物也完全没有关系,敬请查证。我也不想用这个“请不要对号入座”的老哽,不过如果大家还是不了解我想表达的意思,我也只好请你们大家不要“对号入座”了。



在2014年的一个农历新年,这部影片曾经风光一时,至于为何这部影片能够让全国华人引来关注,让我们继续看下去。(转载影片,如遭删除,敬请通知)



管理员也到底是什么心态?Caption中所提到的“让他红”到底意味着什么呢?
是的,事情就是发生在马来西亚槟城的极乐寺。虽然这件事情已经过一年,所以对具体人物与事情的案发经过有点不解,不过依照这部短片看来,"内涵的管理员"所指的这位小屁孩就是片中的男主角,也就是车牌PFC 1140的车主开车时不小心撞倒了老人家。虽然这位小屁孩下了车想去关心一下状况,但因“撞倒了老人家”这事儿可能引起了阿嫲家人或是路人的公愤,所以脾气难免会有所失去控制,说话的语气也自然地大声了很多。然而另一方面, 在车主发现异样后本意是想下车去关心一下状况,不料受到了这位“某人”的责怪所以有点不耐烦地呛会他。

某人:loo oo gong dio sorry bo?
——你道歉了吗?

车主:wa oo lok lai!  loo lang gong wa!
——我有下车 !你们一直讲我(我有下车关心一下状况,但是你们一直不停责备)

某人:loo oo gong dio sorry bo? HAR?!
——你道歉了吗? 哈?!

(...沉默...)

撞倒路人就是不对,不管道理何在。只想告诉大家我在这里想探讨的不是短片中所发生的细节,而是那些网络枪手们。



各位同学们,大家有事儿吗?除了恶口相对之外,大家都没别的话好讲了是吗?我明白很多大侠想伸展正义,不过理性地讲大侠们在网络上对着不管是什么东西开枪真的完全是不起效的。

———不然要说啥洨叻?难道你要我赞赏车主的作为哦?白痴啊?
现在就让我们来看看台湾的朋友对于负面新闻会有什么反应。我现在随手在面子书上找了一篇王八蛋行为的新闻,结果我看上了这一则。




然后来看看台湾的朋友对这篇报道又有什么样的一个反应呢?




我不知道大家能否看出来两者之间的不同点吗。谩骂是难免不了的,不过大家有没有发觉到其实有很多回复是真的蛮幽默的,有些网友更是针对整体事件作出了个人观点与结论。回到上面第一篇误撞倒人的新闻,不知大家有没有忽略了很重要的一点,有没有发觉到底有多少人其实关心了老阿嫲的情况?
在简单的心理学上说,这些马国的朋友一直都在围绕着已发事件地伸出了指头责怪别人,但却没有几个真正地从另个角度去看待这件事,比如说希望老阿嫲没事等之类的评论。简单地说明,这就是转牛角尖的行为。

——那男的做错了事情,骂他也是理所当然的啊!
没错,那男的确实是做错了事情,不需要你去骂他,每个人都知道他的行为是非常地不被鼓励,但大家在网络上这样骂他,真的会起效用吗?连是小学生,初中生,高中生都很明显地断定是非,你又何必参一脚责骂或是围观看热闹呢?



有些事情看看就好,关心是必然的,这样能让我们国家的地方文化添加了不少人情味,不过不好听的话还是别再去加盐加醋把所有小事儿搞得水深火热。遇到了不认同的事儿,你我都有这个权利去发表个人观点和意见,不过在像网络上这个平台,很多事情是不需要去认真面对,微笑带过或是换个幽默的角度去笔于置评,不仅可以让路人看了为之一笑,别人看了至少不是觉得我们只是一味开枪的网络枪手。

身为一个槟城人,我们都知道这里是一个人情味蛮浓厚的地方。大家可以发现在短片中的其实有很多旁人都在劝架当和事佬,他们都保持着一种大事化小,小事化无的心态去解决这件事并给予劝告和说服那位有点冲动的“小屁孩”。据我推测,在短片将要结束的前几秒,那位“小屁孩”其实有挺上身了去关心老阿嫲。如果他已经这么做,那是不是代表着他当时就已经知错了?至于他的作为能不能被原谅,这都不管你我的家事。如果说老阿嫲和她的家人早就不把这件事情放在心上,而你我却一直继续地责怪小屁孩,试着换个角度海水撒泡尿来看回自己,这其实真的蛮好笑的。当事人都没把它放在心上了,而你还是一直要转牛角尖围绕着问题走不出来,回头想想小丑是谁,有病的到底又是谁啊?

补充要点(2015/01/17, 1.28PM) —— 感谢朋友Vincent Yu的补充。
我真的不了解他们把面子书当成是一个什么工具,有些人更是认为那是一个网络的法庭,乡民就是法官和陪审官,认为只要在社会里遭遇到了不幸的小事,像是车子不小心发生了摩擦等一些微不足道的小事,就是要PO上网路“让大家红!”。人家说家丑不可外扬。那些小事,最好就是直接去举出一些实际的行动,影片是可以拍,至少能够作为备录,但千万别带着一个“他要红,我们就让他红!”等着看好戏的心态。对,你受尽委屈了,那些网友会站在你的立场为你申冤,那感觉是超好的,再说又可能会有几千万的站,哇这前所未有的满足感真是太棒了。但在事情发生几个星期后,大家就会忘了一干二净,连个屁味都闻不到,那又何必呢?

未免掀起争议,还是要来个慎重申明。这些分析看看了解当地状况就好,反正大家都是为了我们国人的网络素质。
在各位还没把这些可能会引起一些人的不满的分析之前,我想先在这里做个简单的说明。这篇文中将提到的你,他,你们,他们,马来西亚华人,马来西亚人,华人等各种代名词,而这些的人物并不代表全部国人或指明个人。我也和一下文中所有被提到人物也完全没有关系,敬请查证。我也不想用这个“请不要对号入座”的老哽,不过如果大家还是不了解我想表达的意思,我也只好请你们大家不要“对号入座”了。


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YK: FB ALBUM

I wrote a short freestyle about what I thought recently. Remember what our parents told us when we were little? "Study hard in school, you will success one day". But when we really finished our college and started facing off all the challenges, we finally realized that life isn't that easy as we thought. 歌词中主要的是叙述在社会中感到很迷茫的意境.

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/ Lyrcis 词 /
社會裡的真實一切即將把我消滅
離開了大學之後社會給我寄了戰帖
無法抵抗財務壓力 精神都被撕裂
我跌落谷底感到無助但却沒人发现
他媽的無能政府搞垮經濟 導致通貨起價
老闆看你沒有學歷 1K就是評價
一週6天打工 不管你怎麼拼搏
一個月只有一千告訴我該怎麼過活
低階和中階家庭全都要準備完蛋
只剩下富有人家 還在洗錢狂賺
你永遠死不去只要是企業家或老闆
剩下我們低阶生物下搶着一個飯碗
吃個便當喝杯飲料還要含稅 商家說 沒有辦法只能起價
雖然覺得慚愧
水電費房屋汽車貸款永远無法還清
真想放下一切剃頭出家 每天手抄心經
如果只要認真打拼工作肯定就能成功
贝鲁 有多少老了還是徒勞無功
成功人士的話我們聽了很多 那些到死還在拼搏大家都沒聽說
他们想致富 马云是他们教父
阻扰他们脚步友情会被丢到马路
婊子感到羡慕 统统都在吃醋
夜店外的乞丐只求能够温饱肚
跪地不起 像是上班族的月薪
为了生活他们都逃离到国外打拼
社会中的你我像是战场上的步兵
死的都是往往那些不醒目的天兵
他们都问我马子在哪儿我回答
找不到能养我的 对 我命贱贫乏
养不活自己 不想把别人搞砸
殊不知我在“生活”负责打杂
我不是富二代 没钱喝星巴克
2015我还在用着爱凤4
我不去夜店听歌 我只听忐忑
leave me alone 管他社会多险恶
高學歷是啥 沒有經驗就是低薪
回頭想想大學貸款 還等著還清
每個月都在還債幾乎沒有剩下
白手起家就此後成了企業神話
We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another, unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. – Anais Nin

2015正是网络盛行的年代。在生活中,不管你像搞什么想干什么,基本上网络上已经具备了十足的条件为您服务。举些例子, 想听歌,看电影,点中午早餐,打游戏娱乐,语音或是视频通话等,这些全都已经发展到了网络通。我在想以后有没有这个可能,就是大家都不出席所有
餐礼或是宴会,像婚礼,丧礼,生日Party等,省下了出门和准备的麻烦,时间一到大家齐聚在各自的电脑前吹生日蛋糕。妈的,什么世界。



像刚才说的,随着网络的发达,受瞩目的3C产品基本上都必备WIFI无线装置。回到十几年前年前,谁会想到如今的相机和CCTV都设有无线装置。(说到相机,太多“可爱”的女人都对美颜相机爱不释手。2014年,马国网络红人就此诞生,造福了很多人。)

回到正题,简单说网络世界就是一个不需要passport通行证的国家。可以换各种不同的身份,甚至是性别,说话不用负责任,可以为所欲为。网路BULLY虽然不会对别人产生什么physically的伤害,但冥冥之中侵犯了别人的mental。虽然如此,有多少人会因为你区区几行字而为你提出告诉。所以说网络世界真的不一样的地方,就算你逃到火星去,只要那里有网路,你还是无法走出这个虚拟的世界。

如题所写《一五年的九O年代》才是我今天想拿出来讨论看看。不像二O年代的出身的,他们出世来到这个世界以来,网络早已发达。连我他妈的弟弟今年10岁,早就拥有了网络各种平台的账号。他们虽然见怪不怪,像我一样的九O年级生总是抱怨新生代说:想当年我小时候网络根本毫不发达,而且当时还只是Kpbs的龟速,哪像今天的光纤Fiber Optic Internet
但这也难怪九年级生,因为他们也曾听过八年级生抱怨,然后八年级生也曾闻过七年级放屁,以此类推下去,永远没完没了。



我本身修读IT的,别因为这样就把我当成不喜欢社交的宅男。基本上我都有自己的schedule,然后随着时间表转换不同的模式和思想。所以我常说 “Keep in touch with me, otherwise you better erase your impression about me. Trust meI'm scared of myself as well. ” 

我常常跟我身边的朋友说真想看到Facebook关闭,想象有多人会为此生意倒闭,生活没事干而无所事事泛滥,或许还有机会看到有人因为没得使用FACEBOOK而轻生。这道理其实来讲真的很鸡歪,不过这个世界本来就是有你我这些脑筋不正常的人而添加许多色彩。我为了欣赏人世间的精彩而过得多姿多彩,世界多么美好啊。

上传照片打卡
如今不难看到朋友出国旅行,都"必须"打卡标签地点,连吃个饭也要拍照上传打卡。我试着去了解他们在做这个举动到底是带着什么心态。说是分享,你妈的在短短几个小时之内,时不时地PO了几十张的照片,我不懂是来不及分享呢,还是你要一直要警惕别人说“你看,老子在享乐”。 PO旅行照真的没有问题。正常来说,我会好好地尽情地享受当下,回国或是有了完全空足的时间才一次过上传分享给家人和朋友。
用餐打卡更令我不解其中的乐趣。或许在心理上能够达到一定的需求,不过是因此得到乐趣的话,看来社会病得蛮严重的。



除了在网络世界以外,九O年代的同学七成都会有这个心态,那就是想成功和出人头地。

妈的BEN你脑子进水啊?你是看人成功眼红还是怎样?你看有病的是你吧。
——麦急啦,话还没说完就急着要对我开枪。

对,有梦想和目标固然是好事。不过如果因为梦想和目标去出卖朋友和你自己,这里就有点争执了。七成的九O年代的思想就是,到了这个青春旺盛的时间,就是要出人头地,就是要赚到很多很多很多很多很多很多很多很多很多很多钱。
现在我问你一句,“如果我给你三分钟的时间,我要你回答我两道问题,第一道就是你喜欢什么东西,第二道问题就是请现场表演你的才艺,你能做到吗?”

第一道问题其实不难,其多数的回复是“吃饭,睡觉(回答这个答案的同学太可爱了),打篮球,跑步,踢足球。” 不过这些都不是运动,也就是我们的日常作息吗?这个问题指的是你真的ENJOY喜欢做的事情或是东西是什么? 

“我就是喜欢运动啊,不行啊?”
——算了,我没话说。

有些同学给了这些答案:

“喜欢研究车子” “喜欢电脑硬件” “喜欢花草树木” “喜欢摄影” “喜欢玩滑板” “喜欢打电动” “喜欢弹吉他” “喜欢地铁火车” “喜欢冷血动物昆虫” 等等

这些所谓的兴趣是你本身有感而发想去接触的,而这些不是运动。兴趣玩的多半的是本钱,而你终究肯投资多少精神和时间在你的兴趣上,这要看你把你的兴趣放在什么地位了。

回来看看我家乡槟城的现象,有多少的你是真正拥有兴趣。马国人都知道,要买东西不管是3C还是新产品,大家都会建议下吉隆坡。为什么槟城这里买不到很多东西?简单地说,因为没有市场,这当然也是因为吉隆坡和槟城的人口比例不一样。
我是94年的,这个年纪的少年少女就是要出来社会打拼,很多人一开始出来就是要找你谈合作生意。如果后来发现有点不NGAM KEY,他们就从此不再和你来往,并且心里还有这么一句OS:“妈的别阻扰老子发达。” 这些好朋友每天因为想致富冲昏了头,认为那些没有上进心的人就是累赘。他们最大的反驳就是上传他们的战利品的照片到FACEBOOK,这些所谓的战利品指的就名牌货。
——如果这是你想要的人生,我恭喜你做到了。



回到第二道问题,现时表演才艺,试问自己能呈现出什么东西。
———关于这个问题,我姑且写到这里,自己联想你的答案会你带来什么结果。

最近就是常和朋友出来喝茶搞点社交,也因为朋友介绍认识更多的人,大家交换心得让我有感而发。我发现大家至少都保持一个道德心,因为课本上又教导,但是会做人的不多,因为学校个根本没有这堂课。

Keep Doing What You Love. 上述我针对的是社会现象。你看到这里或许会觉得我TTLY,自认清高,艾搞等。我只想让你了解,嬉皮就是喜欢任何事物。Hate me not. Although I may have different thoughts on my mind but I love nature and beings. Ain't trying hard to be different, but sometimes people sucks, but then that's the beauty of it. 好坏自然有他的美,不一样的你我也让这世界变得多姿多彩。





 以上所有照片都跟本文无关,感谢朋友们提供的照片,这里更多:

  • YK: https://www.facebook.com/yingkaiiii/media_set?set=a.113030005470040.14259.100002891243561&type=3 
  • Feroshy: https://www.flickr.com/photos/feroshy

———嬉皮乱点;乱指点



I am so clever that sometimes I don’t understand a single word of what I am saying. – Oscar Wilde



But I don’t want comfort. I want God, I want poetry, I want real danger, I want freedom, I want goodness. I want sin. – Aldous Huxley

First of all, I would like to wish everyone a Merry Christmas although it might a little bit late now. Well, wish you had a good one anyway

Christmas isn't a big day in Asia, at least for majority of family it's not, unlike how American or other western countries celebrate this wonderful day. Once in my life I had a very wonderful Christmas day when my Aussie relatives and cousins came back to Malaysia. It was a memorable day, I remember we had a very nice Christmas decoration around the house, we had a big turkey for our dinner, we had a present-giving session where everybody had to prepare a present and exchange it with one another, until today I've never had the Christmas day like this ever again. Hence, Christmas is simply not my day.

On the Christmas eve, I tweeted a status. @boyagin follow for more!



It seems like you wouldn't get the chance to celebrate Christmas when you don't have spare cash along with you (Don't mention anything about going to church). This is how Penangites (I only write what I see) celebrate Christmas --- Clubbing. Especially at night on the Christmas eve, you could simply see many-many-many photos of beers or towers on your Facebook timeline posted by your friends. So on this 'special day', I decided to sit back, relax and try to give myself some 'holidays' (To not-do what I usually do). I stopped gaming but did a lot of readings about brain, universe, Darwinism and evolution.

I did received an invitation from Tommy and LX to grab some drinks around 12a.m. but I refused to go out so in the end, I declined them. (I appreciated your invitation, F*ck, I feel so bad now, should've been there).

Thanks to my high school friends, now currently as waiter/barista at cafe 'The Alley'
for offering me a free dessert. 
Before December, we were planning to have a BBQ party at Tommy's house on Christmas day. But due to some reasons, we knew that this is not gonna happen on that day. I thought that I shouldn't be locking myself in the room again so I madea callout to LX, asking him to throw a small gathering on the Christmas night. It went pretty well at the end of the day.

Below is a boring video regarding Tommy was stuck in the toilet. Nothing surprising, Nothing special, you've been warned.

Guess my 2014 Christmas was not so lonely after all. BUT-STILL

This is the report that I've written and handed in for my report submission. The content might be a little bit exaggerating

A group photo when we passed the donation fund to Ms. Barbara.
Reflection - Skills and Lessons Learned
It’s was a good opportunity getting to pay back of what we have and what are we capable of doing to the community. I wanted to thank The Ministry of Education (MOE), or known as Kementerian Pendidikan Malaysia for making this course, Mata Pelajaran Pengajian Umum (MPU) a compulsory must-take course by all collegiate. Honestly speaking, if it wasn’t for this course, I won’t be having any chances to understand there’s actually people who needs help, trying so hard just for their living. I’m truly grateful for such an opportunity.


Our project was carried out collaboratively with Penang Animal Welfare Society (4PAWS). This idea was brought up by me being as a dog lover and agreed by the rest of the members. Reading from news online, we’ve noticed that 4PAWS is urgently needing some volunteers to help them take care of more than 300 dogs in the shelter. I’m glad that our team were supportive and showing their care and concern about the stray dogs. We had couple of meetings and discussions. This is when a group members sitting together, brainstorming some new ideas and things that we should concern while planning the phases of the event. Communication is the most important thing while having discussions. I’ve learned to speak out my own opinions and providing my ideas as contributions to my group, this is how the discussion is done by speaking in a clear way in order to deliver my thoughts to other group members to avoid misunderstanding. Consequently, I’ve learned to show my cooperation on how to work together as a team with my members. This event was carried within a group, we’ve contacted another group to work together as we had a same project carried out at the same place. I’ve learned to brace myself to speak to another group members, which were strangers to me and we ended up becoming friends with each other.
While implementing the event, I volunteered myself to become the driver fetching other members whom have no cars and they were figuring out the way to reach our destination. As a friend and group member, we should help each other with the resources that we have at the moment. When we arrived 4PAWS, I was a little bit afraid at the beginning as there were more than 300 dogs. The number was scary for a medium-size shelter like this. My group members seemed afraid as well, but we encouraged each other to “man-up” and finally everyone broke the barrier and started playing the dogs. Not to mention everybody was enjoyed all the time. Mr. Marvin, a senior volunteer guided us the skills on how to comfort a dog and understand what are the dogs thinking. He also told us some notes that we should aware of so we won’t be “crossing the line” that will cause the dogs feel uncomfortable and alert.



Speaking with Ms Barbara, the founder of 4PAWS, I finally understood how hard she has been through to keep this place running. That is why the organization needs volunteers to help them take care of more than 300 dogs and donation fundraising to feed them. Ms. Barbara sacrifices her retirement life and chooses to look after the strays in Penang. THAT'S THE SPIRIT.
By caring out this event, I've made a promise myself to be one of the long term volunteer. If it wasn't for this project, I wouldn't understand how hard people have been through outside.



Self-Reflection - Personal future development
We are still at the young age. It’s a long road travel of our life. We have to learn everything and everyday in order improve ourselves.
Moral value is the most basic personalities that we should have. These moral values are such as being tolerated, kind, helpful and more. These moral values are very helpful when it comes to dealing with others no matter in communicating or working with other members. Nobody wants to work with a person with zero quality and moral values. Moreover, moral values improve our personality and quality so we will get respected by others. We have to be hard working and don’t be selfish to share what with have with other people. It’s a good habit sharing your resources with others and who knows if one day others will share what they have as in return.
Responsibility is a personal development that everyone should have. Without responsibility, we could hardly work with other people. For example, a company isn’t built up by the founder or the director only. It requires employees and certain professional positions to keep their business running. For a collaborative project/event, each will be given with different jobs to be done. That is when the responsibility is the most important issue as it represents how much a person can do and at the same time, it shows a person how far a person can go.
Respecting the others especially elders is important as well. The elders have been through more than us. We listen and take their advise base on their experience. Every being has a chance to live, even animals, so help them when they need help as well.


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